Meet...Reverend Paul Michael

Thoughts on Ceremonies


Ceremonies can usher us into a sacred time and space.They formally establish and anchor the meaning we have for a particular occasion. Ceremonies have the power and magnitude to shape and bring together the intention, the very direction of a marriage, a home and a life.

Traditionally, all or most of the bride and groom's wedding ceremony has conformed to the dogma of an organization or the point of view of the wedding officiant. For many, this is ideal. Traditional ceremonies are beautiful indeed and have their place.

For the couple, however, wanting freedom of expression and individuality, and a truly personalized ceremony, Reverend Paul Michael joyfully offers his extensive experience and resourcefulness in support.

When I first get together with a couple, I will tell them something like this: "This is your wedding. Anything can be done here. There is nothing, no interest or viewpoint, that cannot be blended beautifully into your ceremony, including the prayer. And it's not about the words of the prayer as such, but the meaning of the prayer for you both.

When a couple chooses words for prayer (poem or invocation if a non-religious couple) that is different than what I am used to, I feel happy. I enjoy expressing what's meaningful to them as another beautiful, perfectly valid expression. This widens my own perspective, one of the benefits of being an officiant for weddings."

When using Reverend Paul Michael, an engaged couple can count on their ceremony script and ceremony perfectly reflecting how they think and feel about their marriage, and their life together.


"I will guide you to a wedding ceremony that is mostly traditional, mostly modern, non-religious, interfaith, multicultural or any combination thereof. The script process starts as a empty canvas (you two haven't chosen anything yet). Then the ideas you choose from my Ceremony Starter Kit (or elsewhere) are added and tastefully and colorfully blended. But you might say, 'Is this a lot of work?' No. Not at all. The only thing you have to do is read a few starting ceremonies that I will give you and then let me know what you like. You may have questions for me. You might ask me to edit or rewrite something or comment on where something that you came across should go. It's simple. Unless you want to put it together yourself, which some couples enjoy doing, I will finish it up from there. I am organized and will make this smooth and easy going for you. Oh, have I told you that I am also a 'Professional Unoverwhelmer'? This is my fun way of saying that no matter what may come up in the process, I am here for you both as an anchor and as a ceremony wayshower; your guide."

We liked your take on the wedding ceremony, saying that the ceremony was "ours", not yours, and that we could do what we wanted with ideas and vows. I was able to cut and paste a traditional ceremony together with your amazing ideas. I wanted a ceremony like no one else's, special to Jack and me and special to everyone involved. Jack & Kritine


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